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March 31, 2019 - April 5, 2019

Dates: March 31 – April 5, 2019

Location: Alton L. Collins Retreat Center, near Portland, OR

Do you have a solid sense of the interpersonal neurobiology concepts and resonant language skills that are important for addressing emotional trauma? Would you enjoy spending a week taking those concepts and skills and applying them to real-life situations that are important to you and your cohort? Would you like to take what you have learned and put it into deep practice for sustained change?

Based on the book Your Resonant Self, being published by Norton in September 2017, this retreat will take you through the application of the foundational understandings, skills and steps needed to nurture a practice of self-warmth.

This will be the second of two retreats that will take you through the book. This Application Week works with the direct application of Week One’s material on the aftereffects of trauma, including reactivity, dissociation, attachment, self-hate, depression, addictions and finally, joy. It will be very experiential, with lots of movement and sweetness.


1. I am willing to learn, and to support others in their learning and self-connection.
2. I have read the book, Your Resonant Self, in full.
3. I have either attended Week 1, or I have completed some other introduction to Interpersonal Neurobiology – please write Sarah with a description of your experience for permission to enroll.
4. I have completed the on-line Intro to Resonant Language Program (link here)
Or, I have listened to the recordings of the Intro to Resonant Language program and have completed and submitted the worksheets and journal pages. (link here)
Or, I am experienced in the use of Nonviolent Communication to support self-warmth in internal processes and to support others who are touching their own emotional experience. Please write to Sarah to describe your experience to have this prerequisite waived.


Price: Tuition only – early, early bird – $800 if paid by June 30, 2018 (Room & Board cost is separate and must be added for program total, for example, for double room & board ($805) & tuition the total for one week is $1505)

Early bird $1000 tuition only if paid by Aug. 30, 2018 (Room & Board cost is separate and must be added for program total)

$1200 tuition only if paid by Sept. 30, 2018 (Room & Board cost is separate and must be added for program total)

$1450 tuition only if paid after Sept. 30, 2017 (Room & Board cost is separate and must be added for program total)

$500 of your tuition payment is non-refundable and non-transferrable, the remainder of your payments are refundable up to 32 days before the program start date. Room and board payments are due 45 days before program start and are only refundable up to 32 days before the program start date.

For people registering for retreats less than two weeks in advance of the start of the retreat, the Alton Collins Retreat Center cannot guarantee that they can support special diet requests.

Here is the plan for the week:

DAY ONE: Claiming Anger’s Creative Gifts
– Understanding anger: the RAGE circuit
– The state of FIGHT
– Detoxing anger
– Expression skills

DAY TWO: Returning from Dissociation
– The two kinds of dissociation
– Dissociation and the immobilization effect in the vagus nerve
– The enteric nervous system
– Empathy for dissociation
– Practicing gentleness
– Understanding shame

DAY THREE: How Brains Respond to Accompaniment: Attachment
• The importance of our earliest relationships
• The transgenerational transmission of attachment patterns, relational timing, and patterns of regulation and dysregulation
• The microscale of attachment and mirror neurons
• The family vagus nerve and the family heart
• Healing attachment wounds
• Earned secure attachment

DAY FOUR: Healing Self-Hate and Disorganized Attachment
• The impact of trauma on the savage DMN
• Windows of welcome/windows of tolerance
• Self-hate as a tragic attempt at self-regulation
• Understanding disorganized/traumatic attachment

DAY FIVE: Gently Healing Depression
• Depression, anxiety and negative self-talk
• Depression and loneliness
• Warmth for depression
• Bringing in resources from outside the self

DAY SIX: Leaving Behind Addictions and Compulsions: The Contributions of Self-Understanding and Resonance

• Identifying and transforming negative self-talk in addictions/compulsions
• Transgenerational trauma, lightening the load we carry from parents/grandparents, and working with nervous system contracts

DAY SEVEN: Joy, Community, and Our Outside Voice: Bringing Our Resonating Self-Witness to Others

• Understanding and experiencing the effect of resonant language with excitement, delight and joy
• Contracts that reduce joy to ensure belonging



March 31, 2019
April 5, 2019
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Alton L. Collins Retreat Center
32867 OR-211
Eagle Creek, OR 97022 United States
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