YOUR RESONANT SELF – IN RELATIONSHIP – INTRODUCTORY WEEK, Part of a 2-Week Immersion Program

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YOUR RESONANT SELF – IN RELATIONSHIP – INTRODUCTORY WEEK, Part of a 2-Week Immersion Program

December 4 @ 4:00 pm - December 11 @ 12:00 pm

YOUR RESONANT SELF IN RELATIONSHIP: INTRO TO INTIMACY WEEK

Dates:  Dec. 4-11, 2019

Location: Alton L. Collins Retreat Center, near Portland, OR

Do you have the sense that your relationships with others – with partners, friends, parents or children — are shadows of what they could be? Do you have a hard time being in joyful contact with others? Is it hard for both you and your others to exist and have needs at the same time? Perhaps you’ve been practicing self-compassion meditations and reading self-help books for years, but still struggle to be warm and accepting towards yourself and others in relationship?

Participants are welcome to attend in pairs, singly, or in other configurations.

Based on the book Your Resonant Self, (Norton Publishing, September 2017), this retreat will take you through the foundational understandings, skills and steps needed to nurture a practice of self-warmth and to bring it to life in your relational connections.

This will be the first of two retreats designed to accompany the book. This Intro to Intimacy Week focuses on getting to know your default network in relationship, recognizing bids for connection, and becoming acquainted with many of the blocks and openings to intimacy. It will be very experiential, with lots of movement and sweetness. The second of these two retreats, which are available either combined or as stand-alone experiences, will run from June 13-20, 2020.  

PRICE FOR WEEK ONE ONLY: 

Price: Tuition only – early, early bird – $900 if paid by June 30, 2019 (Room & Board cost is separate and must be added for program total, for example, for double room & board ($805) & tuition the total for one week is $1705)

Cancellation policy – $500 of the payment is non-refundable – the rest is refundable 40 days in advance of program start date – no refunds after 40 days in advance, as I depend on registration to run programs, and have to prepay the retreat center for reservations.

Full TWO WEEK Program Price:

Early, early bird tuition for both weeks: $1600 if paid by June 30, 2020 (Room & Board cost is separate and must be added for program total, if you would like double occupancy the total for Room & Board is $1610 for the  two separate weeks, making the early early bird total $3210 USD.

(If paying by paypal, please add 3% to cover paypal fees. Write Sarah at sarahpeyton@empathybrain.com to pay by check.)

Room/Board/Commuter/Day Use costs shown below:

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

PLEASE NOTE:

  • In order to secure the early-bird rates, you must register and pay by the dates above.
  • $500 of your tuition payment is non-refundable and transferrable. Payments are refundable up to 40 days before the program start date.
  • Room and board payments are due 45 days before program start and are only refundable up to 32 days before the program start date.
  • If paying by PayPal, please add 3% to cover PayPal fees. Write Sarah at sarahpeyton@empathybrain.com to pay by check.
  • For people registering for retreats less than two weeks in advance of the start of the retreat, the Alton Collins Retreat Center cannot guarantee that they can support special diet requests.
  • Final Deadline for Registration: 7 Days Before the Start of the Program

HOW DO I REGISTER?

To register please fill out this form to send an email to Sarah

Prerequisites:

I am willing to learn, and to support others in their learning.

I have read the book, Your Resonant Self, up until whatever point I was no longer able to read (link to order the book here)

I have listened to the recordings of the Intro to Resonant Language program and have completed and submitted the worksheets and journal pages

Or, I am experienced in the use of Nonviolent Communication to support self-warmth in internal processes and to support others who are touching their own emotional experience. Please write to Sarah to describe your experience to have this prerequisite waived.

WHAT IS THE FORMAT OF THIS EVENT?

This is a 7-day event that moves through the key concepts and exercises of the first half of Sarah’s book, Your Resonant Self, one day per chapter. This is the first week of two retreats that cover the content of YRS in full. Click here to see Week 2.

The workshop will consist of experiential explorations of the material interspersed with short presentations of the material by Sarah and other participants who would like to practice and share their presentations. This approach supports the participants to understand the concepts and have time for practice and integration.

There are evening activities on some of the days, including constellations led by Sarah, and other optional participant-organized gatherings.

Here is the plan for the week:

DAY ONE: How The Automatic Voice Affects Relationships: The Default Mode Network

  • Identifying the sound and tone of the DMN
  • How negative core beliefs reveal the DMN
  • A basic geography of the brain
  • Understanding the importance of self-warmth and warmth in relationship

DAY TWO: How Emotional Balance Affects Relationship: Healthy Self-Regulation

  • The benefits of warm accompaniment
  • Attunement
  • Resonance
  • The skills of resonant language
  • How resonance regulates us and strengthens the brain
  • Hearing the voice of the body

DAY THREE: Developing Self-Kindness and Kindness to Others: Introducing the Resonating Self-Witness

  • The Resonating Self-Witness, Linkage and Differentiation
  • Feelings vocabulary
  • Oxytocin
  • Panksepp’s circuits, particularly CARE
  • Tying these concepts into our understanding of self-regulation and connection with others

DAY FOUR: Taming the Inner Critic: Hearing the Attempt to Contribute

  • Returning to the DMN, working with the self-critical voice, learning how the critical voice affects connection
  • The hemispheres
  • Getting to know the left hemisphere and its dismissive voice
  • Needs vocabulary

DAY FIVE: Calming Anxiety: Moving Toward Trust

  • The foundations of anxiety
  • Anxiety and Panksepp’s circuits
  • Considering our prenatal life and the thermostat of anxiety
  • Building self-empathy skills
  • Time traveling into the future

DAY SIX: Time Traveling With Resonance: Healing Old Hurts 

  • Time, trauma and the brain
  • Explicit and implicit memory
  • Understanding the vagus nerve, freeze and dissociation
  • Time traveling into the past to heal trauma
  • Working with infidelity and betrayal

DAY SEVEN: Vanquishing Ancient Fears

  • Understanding fear: the FEAR circuit
  • The state of FLIGHT
  • Distinguishing between FEAR and GRIEF/PANIC
  • Panic attacks, phobias
  • Making the world a safe place

Details

Start:
December 4 @ 4:00 pm
End:
December 11 @ 12:00 pm
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Venue

Alton L. Collins Retreat Center
32867 OR-211
Eagle Creek, OR 97022 United States
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