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December 7 - December 14

Dates: Dec. 7-14, 2018

Location: Alton L. Collins Retreat Center, near Portland, OR

Do you have the sense that your life, your relationships and your work are shadows of what they could be? Do you have a hard time being in joyful contact with your body, perhaps feeling like your body has betrayed you? Perhaps you’ve been practicing self-compassion meditations and books for years, but still struggle to be warm and accepting towards yourself?

Many of us believe we are our to-do lists, and measure our worth by what we are able to do, or our lack of worth by how far we have fallen behind. Would you love to have a taste of who you would be if you were fully supported, both by self and by others?

Based on the book Your Resonant Self, (Norton Publishing, September 2017), this retreat will take you through the foundational understandings, skills and steps needed to nurture a practice of self-warmth.

This will be the first of two retreats designed to accompany the book. This Intro Week focuses on getting to know your default network, and becoming acquainted with all the blocks and openings to self-connection. It will be very experiential, with lots of movement and sweetness. The second of these two retreats, which are available either combined or as stand-alone experiences, will run from March 31 – April 5, 2019.


Price: Tuition only – early, early bird – $800 if paid by June 30, 2018 (Room & Board cost is separate and must be added for program total, for example, for double room & board ($805) & tuition the total for one week is $1505)

Early bird $1000 tuition only if paid by Aug. 30, 2018 (Room & Board cost is separate and must be added for program total)

$1200 tuition only if paid by Sept. 30, 2018 (Room & Board cost is separate and must be added for program total)

$1450 tuition only if paid after Sept. 30, 2017 (Room & Board cost is separate and must be added for program total)

$500 of your tuition payment is non-refundable and non-transferrable, the remainder of your payments are refundable up to 32 days before the program start date. Room and board payments are due 45 days before program start and are only refundable up to 32 days before the program start date.

For people registering for retreats less than two weeks in advance of the start of the retreat, the Alton Collins Retreat Center cannot guarantee that they can support special diet requests.

Full TWO WEEK Program Price:

Early, early bird tuition for both weeks: $1500 if paid by June 30, 2018 (Room & Board cost is separate and must be added for program total, if you would like double occupancy the total for Room & Board is $1610 for the two separate weeks, making the early early bird total $3110 USD.

(If paying by paypal, please add 3% to cover paypal fees. Write Sarah at to pay by check.)

Room/Board/Commuter/Day Use costs shown below:

Room & board at Collins* 805 shared 1020 private

Room at nearby hotel & board at Collins* 1365 shared 1665 private

*The retreat center does not have particularly high-speed internet – if you need the high speed, then please choose the nearby hotel and rent a car. The hotel is located 6 minutes drive from the retreat center.
* Hotel cost is approximate, based on present day prices, and could increase – please inquire for exact amount.

Collins Commuter

Day use with all three meals $62/day 434
Day use with lunch and dinner $50/day 350
Day use with lunch only $31/day 217

Prerequisites: I am willing to learn, and to support others in their learning.
I have read the book, Your Resonant Self, up until whatever point I was no longer able to read (link to order the book here)
I have completed the on-line Intro to Resonant Language program (link here)
Or, I have listened to the recordings of the Intro to Resonant Language program and have completed and submitted the worksheets and journal pages (link here)
Or, I am experienced in the use of Nonviolent Communication to support self-warmth in internal processes and to support others who are touching their own emotional experience. Please write to Sarah to describe your experience to have this prerequisite waived.

Here is the plan for the week:

DAY ONE: How We Talk to Ourselves: The Default Mode Network
– Identifying the sound and tone of the DMN
– How negative core beliefs reveal the DMN
– A basic geography of the brain
– Understanding the importance of self-warmth

DAY TWO: Staying in Emotional Balance: Healthy Self-Regulation
– The benefits of warm accompaniment
– Attunement
– Resonance
– The skills of resonant language
– How resonance regulates us and strengthens the brain
– Hearing the voice of the body

DAY THREE: Developing Self-Kindness: Introducing the Resonating Self-Witness

– The Resonating Self-Witness
– Feelings vocabulary
– Oxytocin
– Panksepp’s circuits, particularly care
– Tying these concepts into our understanding of self-regulation

DAY FOUR: Taming the Inner Critic: Hearing the Attempt to Contribute
– Returning to the DMN, working with the self-critical voice
– The hemispheres
– Getting to know the left hemisphere and its dismissive voice
– Needs vocabulary

DAY FIVE: Calming Anxiety: Moving Toward Trust

– The foundations of anxiety
– Anxiety and Panksepp’s circuits
– Considering our prenatal life and the thermostat of anxiety
– Building self-empathy skills
– Time traveling into the future

DAY SIX: Time Traveling With Resonance: Healing Old Hurts
– Time, trauma and the brain
– Explicit and implicit memory
– Understanding the vagus nerve, freeze and dissociation
– Time traveling into the past to heal trauma

DAY SEVEN: Vanquishing Ancient Fears
– Understanding fear: the FEAR circuit
– The state of FLIGHT
– Distinguishing between FEAR and GRIEF/PANIC
– Panic attacks, phobias
– Making the world a safe place


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Alton L. Collins Retreat Center
32867 OR-211
Eagle Creek, OR 97022 United States
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