Your Resonant Self Working With Others: Introduction Week (Eagle Creek, Oregon)

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Your Resonant Self Working With Others: Introduction Week (Eagle Creek, Oregon)

December 7 - December 14

Are you a inspired by Sarah’s Your Resonant Self material and are you longing to bring it from the page into real life for others, in either one-on-one or group settings?

Are you hoping for new tools and insights to support your clients, empathy receivers, or groups who seem stuck in paralysis, chronic self-dislike and self-contempt, reactivity, rumination, anxiety; depression; PTSD and intrusive memories?

Do you feel bewildered at how to facilitate a space for clients and others to truly move and transform long-term shame, immobility and other experiences that impact their capacity for self-compassion?

Are you aware that when we, as practitioners, shift into strategic language, we leave the client in a non-neuroplastic place which makes transformation of past pain and reactive patterns virtually impossible?

Many therapists, coaches, facilitators and other healing practitioners have deep commitment and intention for kindness and allyship with clients… yet most practitioners haven’t yet been supported to understand that their OWN capacity for resonance, and their OWN relational window of tolerance for emotions determines the extent to which their clients can experience movement and healing.

This retreat has two main goals:

  1. To help you, the practitioner, understand how to use the latest relational neuroscience concepts along with resonant language and attunement to become deep and supportive allies in your clients’ healing; and
  2. To support people teaching this material in groups, classes and businesses to bring experiential explorations to life so that integration happens.


  • How relational warmth and resonance in the therapeutic space supports the growth of new neural fibers that enhance long-term health and well-being.
  • An understanding of relational versus instrumental language, and how the two affect trust and healing, and how this is key to supporting progress and tracking resiliency.
  • Tips for how to use resonant language to create a warm container for people to experience movement and transformation.
  • How your own attachment style and window of tolerance affects the ability for your one-on-one connections and your groups  to fully extend and welcome their own emotions.

Based on the book Your Resonant Self, (Norton Publishing, September 2017), this is the first of two retreats for people working with this material, which is designed to accompany the book.  The second of these two retreats will run from March 29 – April 5, 2019.


This is a 7-day event that moves through the key concepts and exercises of the first half of Sarah’s book, Your Resonant Self, one day per chapter. This is the first week of two retreats that cover the content of YRS in full. Click here to see Week 2.

The workshop will consist of experiential explorations of the material interspersed with short presentations of the material by Sarah and other participants who would like to practice and share their presentations. This approach supports the participants to understand the brain concepts and have time for practice and integration.

There are evening activities on some of the days, including constellations led by Sarah, and other optional participant-organized gatherings.  Here are the topics and plan for each day:

EVENING ONE: The Default Mode Network:

  • Identifying the sound and tone of the DMN and how to recognize it in others
  • How negative core beliefs reveal the DMN and how to work with negative cognitions of self
  • How the practitioner’s language can support, or hinder, other’s ability to access neuroplasticity and movement

DAY TWO: Staying in Emotional Balance: Healthy Self-Regulation

  • The benefits of warm accompaniment and how to support it in others
  • Attunement and Resonance, and building practitioner skills to create resonant language containers
  • How resonance regulates others and enables them to strengthen their own brain and slowly integrate relational warmth.
  • Helping others, especially those who experience immobility and dissociation, to hear the voice of their body

DAY THREE: Developing Self-Kindness: Introducing the Resonating Self-Witness

  • The Resonating Self-Witness, learning to support others to integrate the practitioner’s RSW into their own brain
  • Panksepp’s circuits, particularly care and how to support integration and untangling of the care circuit in others

DAY FOUR: Taming the Inner Critic: Hearing the Attempt to Contribute

  • Returning to the DMN, supporting others to work with the self-critical voice
  • Understanding the hemispheres and how to support others to develop a conceptual scaffolding of these neuroscience concepts, so they can begin to find allies in their healing
  • Supporting others to see and recognize their left hemisphere, find the good intentions in the left’s dismissive and critical voice, and to honor the beauty of the powerful left side of the brain.

DAY FIVE: Calming Anxiety: Moving Toward Trust

  • The foundations of anxiety, and how to tell the difference between anxious-loneliness (Panksepp’s GRIEF circuit) and anxious-lack-of-safety (Panksepp’s FEAR circuit)
  • Understanding how prenatal life determines the “thermostat” of anxiety
  • Supporting others to see which type of anxiety they’re experiencing, and then helping them find words to practice self-empathy outside the therapeutic space or practice group
  • Learn the time-traveling into the future process to support healing anxiety

DAY SIX: Time Traveling With Resonance: Healing Old Hurts

  • Understanding the neuroscience of memory, trauma and time, and how to use analogies to support others to stand outside themselves, building a platform or warm understanding for their own brains
  • Learning metaphors and visual aids to better understand the vagus nerve, freeze and dissociation
  • Learning the depth empathy skill of supporting others to time travel into the past to heal trauma

DAY SEVEN: Vanquishing Ancient Fears

  • Understanding fear: the FEAR circuit and the state of FLIGHT
  • How to work with panic attacks, phobias, and helping others to develop their own neuroception of safety, to make the world a safe place to live.


 $1450 plus room and board.  See below to calculate your cost:




Sold out at retreat center – contact Sarah for nearby hotel rates if you want to attend this training

  • In order to secure the early-bird rates, you must register and pay by the dates above.
  • **The chart above shows room and board costs for the YRS#1 December retreat only; to calculate your costs for both retreat weeks, please add room and board from the 2019 YRS #2 retreat – shown here.
  • *Hotel room cost shown is an estimate only; please contact Sarah for the exact rate at the time of registration
  • $500 of your tuition payment is non-refundable and non-transferrable. Payments are refundable up to 32 days before the program start date.
  • Room and board payments are due 45 days before program start and are only refundable up to 32 days before the program start date.
  • If paying by PayPal, please add 3% to cover PayPal fees. Write Sarah at to pay by check.
  • For people registering for retreats less than two weeks in advance of the start of the retreat, the Alton Collins Retreat Center cannot guarantee that they can support special diet requests.
  • Final Deadline for Registration: 7 Days Before the Start of the Program


To register please fill out this form to send an email to Sarah.


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Alton L. Collins Retreat Center
32867 OR-211
Eagle Creek, OR 97022 United States
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