Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) is the integrated field of study of what brains do in relationship. It brings together Psychology, Attachment Research, Cognitive and Social Neuroscience and Complexity Theory to create a synthesized understanding of self and other. Daniel Siegel is the primary figure in this field. (www.drdansiegel.com)
Working with cutting edge neuroscience research, IPNB is in a continual state of development and integration, supporting people to have a clear and compassionate understanding of themselves in the world and in their histories, both as individual humans and as mammals. As people learn about themselves with resonance and understanding, they are freed to find their own way to healing and the natural expression of who they were born to be. The essence of this work is to learn to resonate with ourselves and others so that our foundational and generous selves are unearthed from implicit entanglements and supported to be as integrated and complex as we are supposed to be.
10 main ways our brains integrate as we do this healing work:
Integration of Presence - Vertical Integration (body and mind, self-regulation, choice) - Horizontal Integration (left and right hemispheres) - Integration of Memory (emotional and factual memory) - Narrative Integration (the stories we tell and the sense we make of them) - State Integration (moving toward living in emotional states that are easier on us) - Temporal Integration (finding ourselves in time) - Interpersonal Integration - Transpirational Integration
Recommended reading list for IPNB:
Make Your Brain a Good Place to Live: The Neuroscience of Resonance by Sarah Peyton *Coming Soon* - Being a Brain-Wise Therapist by Bonnie Badenoch - The Neurobiology of We (CD set) by Daniel Siegel - The Master and His Emissary by Ian McGilchrist - The Neuroscience of Human Attachment by Louis Cozzolino - The Boy who was Raised as a Dog by Bruce Perry
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) is the mindfulness practice of attending to the way we use language. It involves learning both to connect to the deep longings and values that lie within our speech, and learning what common habits of speech create disconnection. A Nonviolent Communication practice begins with an understanding of the way that our needs, passions, and deepest values lie beneath our words, thoughts, and actions. As we become familiar with these concepts, we learn to hear them everywhere, and we start to understand the relationship between our body sensations, our emotions (feelings) and our needs. In NVC, we learn to clear our language of disruptive judgments, criticism, sidestepping, blame, and dismissal. With the addition of an emphasis on giving words to the emotional and physical body’s experience, we move into Somatic Empathy, an approach to the practice of NVC that lets us integrate emotional and physical relaxation and self-compassion.
A committed practice of NVC takes on-going long-term learning and immersion to change the deeply wired habits of language that most of us come out of childhood using. I highly recommend the following options (links to info):
Recommended reading list for NVC:
NVC: A Language of Life by Marshall Rosenberg - What We Say Matters: Practicing Nonviolent Communication. Judith Hanson Lasater and Ike K. Lasater - Respectful Parent Respectful Kids: 7 Keys to Turn Family Conflict into Cooperation. Sura Hart & Victoria Kindle Hodso
Free NVC downloads: