Parenting through the Lens of Nonviolent Communication & Interpersonal Neurobiology
With Gloria Lybecker
Each of the nine Teleseminars is a 1-1/2 hour exploration around parenting with particular emphasis on current research into the brain and how it behaves in relationship – using the lenses of Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) and Nonviolent Communication (NVC).
- Explore how issues rooted in our past impact our present and affect the way we experience and interact with our children. We will briefly explore the relationship between attachment, the mind, and the brain. How can we begin to integrate memories and support healthy development for our children and ourselves?
- Discover how deepening our self-understanding, by exploring the events and mental processes of our lives, our autobiographical stories will grow and evolve. Making sense of our life enables us to understand and integrate our own childhood experiences. What comes up for you when you talk about the events of your life? Do you describe you experiences from a distance, or do you emotionally relive them? Developing your life stories can enrich your capacity for mindsight and enhance your sensitivity to your child.
- Learn how understanding the role that emotions play in how we connect to each other can help us to have loving, enduring, and meaningful relationships with others, and most especially with our children. Experience how giving and receiving empathy lays a foundation that supports the building of lifelong relationships.
- Studies suggest that a common element in healthy attachments is the ability of the parent and child to have a reciprocal give-and-take of signals that creates a sense of joining. This teleseminar will explore how contingent communication and listening empathically enables a sense of heart connection with your child that lasts a life time.
- Explore how the sense of well-being that emerges from predictable and repeated experiences of care creates a secure base for children to develop and explore the world around them. Attachment research points to the importance of the parent-child relationship in shaping children’s interactions with others, their resilience to stress, their ability to balance their emotions, their capacity to have a coherent story that makes sense of their lives and to make meaningful interpersonal relationships in the future. Research also shows that relationships with parents can change and as they do the child’s attachment changes. This means that it’s never too late to create positive change in a child’s world!
- Learn how we have come to make sense of our lives, how we tell a coherent story of our early life experiences, is the best predictor of how our children will become attached to us. When we make sense of our lives we are enabled to build on our positive experiences as we move beyond the limitations of our past and create a new way of living for ourselves and for our children. Learn how to provide your children with tools for building an internal sense of security and resilience with interpersonal skills that enable meaningful, compassionate connections in the future.
- Are you ever surprised by your own behavior as a parent? Do your emotions take over and get the best of you at times? Do you ever feel trapped in a repetitive cycle that is less than satisfying with your child? Inflexibility may be an indication you are entering a state of mind referred to as a low mode of processing. When caring for our children, it is inevitable that our own leftover issues will become activated in our minds. Low-road interactions that are repeated and not repaired can impair the basic ABC’s of attachment. This seminar will explore how when the parent-child relationship triggers a parent’s unresolved issues, it is time to reflect on what internal process may be creating the external disconnection.
- Have you ever experienced a misunderstanding, argument, or had a breakdown in communication with your children? Such breakdowns in communication are called a rupture. Often parents and children have different desires, focuses, and agendas that create tension in their relationship that may create a limit-setting type of rupture. Other ruptures, such as when a parent is frightening to a child, are more toxic and create more distress in the child’s mind. In this seminar we will explore how being aware of ruptures is essential before a parent can restore a collaborative, nurturing connection with the child, also known as making a repair, and how being able to understand their own behavior and emotions, that contributed to the rupture, enables parents to initiate the repair process.
- Do you ever dream about what your child’s life will be like for them as they grow and mature into adults? What is the nature of the character you would like to see your children acquire? Children learn by watching us and modeling what we do. Who we are – the nature of our character – is revealed in how we live and how we make decisions about what we do in life. Our children watch us because they want to know who we are. This seminar will explore how parents can learn ways of being with their children that promote the development of empathy and compassionate understanding to empower them throughout their lives.