Why Do You Make My Life So Difficult?

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Why Do You Make My Life So Difficult?

February 2 @ 10:00 am - February 3 @ 4:00 pm

The Relational Neuroscience of Conflict and Reactivity
A 2-Day Workshop with Sarah Peyton, CNVC-certified trainer
Do you ever wish a “challenging” person in your life would change or maybe even disappear?
Are you longing for some sanity? Some warmth? For the ease and trust you once shared with your sibling, parents, roommates?
Do you get the Sunday blues anticipating going to work and seeing your boss/co-workers on Monday?
Join Sarah for this exploration on what causes conflict and reactivity at the level of our brain. She will share research about how reactivity is defused, and how long does it take for bodies to calm. We’ll also look at what makes mediation work and how implicit memory plays in reactivity. There will be experiential segments (optional) on how can we bring empathy and Nonviolent Communication (NVC) skills to bear in the long-term to transform reactivity into calm and connection.
Here’s our agenda:

Interpersonal Conflict

    • Aggression: RAGE vs Predatory Aggression (SEEKING)
    • Hemispheres: Blame vs Mourning
    • Avoidant Attachment and Social Reward
    • Conflict in Disorganized Attachment

The Legacy of Trauma

    • The Amygdala Doesn’t Know Who Is Out There
    • And it Doesn’t Know What Time it is

The Nervous System and Conflict

    • Reading Hostility
    • Sympathetic Contagion
    • Unconscious Contracts

Social Conflict

    • History matters: Why it’s not just “personal”

Internal Conflict

    • Practices that can lead to quicker self-regulation and more stability


Part I: Saturday, Feb 2nd, 2019 10:00 am – 5:00 pm*
Part II: Sunday, Feb 3rd, 2019 10:00 am – 4:00 pm
Location: Downtown Vancouver, BC.
*If you can only make it one day, please come on Saturday – Part 1. We will explore themes in Part 2 on Sunday that were introduced in Part 1.
To register: Please e-mail Mika Maniwa at mikamaniwa@outlook.com
Tuition by donation: We would like to make this workshop accessible to everyone who is interested. Please take into account the current US/Canadian exchange rate and costs for Sarah’s travel and time. A donation between $100 – $500 would be very welcome.
SARAH PEYTON has a passion for weaving together neuroscience knowledge and experiences of healing that unify people with their brains and bodies. Sarah makes Interpersonal Neurobiology research available for our embodied brains to use in living at peace with ourselves. Funny, touching, and filled with personal stories and up-to-date research on our nervous systems and how they interact with each other, her presentations change lives and invite self-acceptance and self-compassion. Sarah offers healing experiences of hearing ourselves and others deeply (using the precision and resonant language that come alive in the long-term study of Nonviolent communication) and 3D body-centered explorations of families over generations (through family constellation work.)
Sarah is a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication (NVC); faculty of Birthingway Midwifery College teaching Communication; an experienced facilitator of Family Constellation work; speaks and writes internationally on the confluence of NVC, Constellation work, and the world of neuroscience research. She is the author of the book Your Resonant Self (email link) published by Norton in 2017.
If you love NVC and want to better understand why it works so well and why each of us makes sense, I’m sure you will love this powerful training.


February 2 @ 10:00 am
February 3 @ 4:00 pm
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