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December 1, 2020 @ 4:00 pm - December 8, 2020 @ 12:00 pm

Do you have the sense that your relationships with others – with partners, friends, parents or children — are shadows of what they could be? Do you have a hard time being in joyful contact with others? Is it hard for both you and your others to exist and have needs at the same time? Perhaps you’ve been practicing self-compassion meditations and reading self-help books for years, but still struggle to be warm and accepting towards yourself and others in relationship?

Participants are welcome to attend in pairs, singly, or in other configurations.

Based on the book Your Resonant Self, (Norton Publishing, September 2017), this retreat will take you through the foundational understandings, skills and steps needed to nurture a practice of self-warmth and to bring it to life in your relational connections.

This will be the second of two retreats (Week One here) designed to accompany the book. It will be very experiential, with lots of movement and sweetness. The first of these two retreats, which are available either combined or as stand-alone experiences, will run from June 13-20, 2020.

If you wish to purchase the program as a combination for a discount please visit the week one description for pricing information.

This workshop includes a special hearing assistance system from Listen Technologies with individual headphones for any participant that desires to use them.


See below to calculate your cost (tuition + room and board):  

Cancellation policy – $500 of the payment is non-refundable – the rest is refundable 40 days in advance of program start date – no refunds after 40 days in advance, as I depend on registration to run programs, and have to prepay the retreat center for reservations.


Special diet requests welcome, see below for more information about the Chef, Vanessa!


  • In order to secure the early-bird rates, you must register and pay by the dates above.

  • $500 of your tuition payment is non-refundable and non-transferrable. Payments are refundable up to 40 days before the program start date.

  • Room and board payments are due 45 days before program start and are only refundable up to 32 days before the program start date.

  • If paying by PayPal, please add 3% to cover PayPal fees. Write Sarah at sarahpeyton@empathybrain.com to pay by check.

  • For people registering for retreats less than two weeks in advance of the start of the retreat, the Alton Collins Retreat Center cannot guarantee that they can support special diet requests.

  • Final Deadline for Registration: 7 Days Before the Start of the Program


To register please fill out this form to send an email to Sarah.

Here is the plan for the week:

DAY ONE: How The Automatic Voice Affects Relationships: The Default Mode Network

  • Identifying the sound and tone of the DMN
  • How negative core beliefs reveal the DMN
  • A basic understanding of the geography of the brain
  • Understanding the importance of self-warmth and warmth in relationship

DAY TWO: How Emotional Balance Affects Relationship: Healthy Self-Regulation

  • The benefits of warm accompaniment
  • Attunement
  • Resonance
  • The skills of resonant language
  • How resonance regulates us and strengthens the brain
  • Hearing the voice of the body

DAY THREE: Developing Self-Kindness and Kindness to Others: Introducing the Resonating Self-Witness

  • The Resonating Self-Witness, Linkage and Differentiation
  • Feelings vocabulary
  • Oxytocin
  • Panksepp’s circuits, particularly CARE
  • Tying these concepts into our understanding of self-regulation and connection with others

DAY FOUR: Taming the Inner Critic: Hearing the Attempt to Contribute

  • Returning to the DMN, working with the self-critical voice, learning how the critical voice affects connection
  • The hemispheres
  • Getting to know the left hemisphere and its dismissive voice
  • Needs vocabulary

DAY FIVE: Calming Anxiety: Moving Toward Trust

  • The foundations of anxiety
  • Anxiety and Panksepp’s circuits
  • Considering our prenatal life and the thermostat of anxiety
  • Building self-empathy skills
  • Time traveling into the future

DAY SIX: Time Traveling With Resonance: Healing Old Hurts 

  • Time, trauma and the brain
  • Explicit and implicit memory
  • Understanding the vagus nerve, freeze and dissociation
  • Time traveling into the past to heal trauma
  • Working with infidelity and betrayal

DAY SEVEN: Vanquishing Ancient Fears

  • Understanding fear: the FEAR circuit
  • The state of FLIGHT
  • Distinguishing between FEAR and GRIEF/PANIC
  • Panic attacks, phobias
  • Making the world a safe place

About Sarah

Sarah Peyton, international constellations facilitator, Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication and neuroscience educator, integrates constellations, brain science and the use of resonant language to heal trauma. She is a regular contributor to The Knowing Field International Constellations Journal, and is an annual guest speaker and teacher at the ISCA Intensive in Southern Germany. She was a featured presenter at London’s 2017 Trauma Through the Systemic Constellation Lens and is the author of the book “Your Resonant Self: Guided Meditations and Exercises to Engage Your Brain’s Capacity for Healing,” published by Norton Publishing in September of 2017.

About Vanessa

Special diet requests are welcome!

Vanessa is a Gourmet Natural Foods Chef & healthy living educator with more than 20 years of professional experience throughout the USA & Europe. She is a graduate of the Natural Gourmet Institute of NYC & has studied International Food Law throughout the EU.

She graduated from Rutgers University Cum Laude, with a B.S. in Agriculture, Biodiversity & Global Sustainability and a minor in Environmental & Business Economics. She is an advocate for the Non-GMO movement, supports Organic Agriculture and is adept at many styles of nutritional cooking that both nourish the body and redefine what healthy cooking can taste like.

Vanessa is now living in the Mt. Hood area where she offers her globally inspired culinary creations at Alton L. Collins Retreat Center in Eagle Creek, OR. Where she is the Executive Chef. She leads a teaching kitchen, training many people in culinary alchemy from high school students to soccer moms to grandparents. She and her team create from a colorful pallet of local Oregon grown, seasonal fruits & vegetables and emphasizing using non-GMO & organic animal products. These ingredients are utilized to create nutrient-dense delights that cater to a wide variety of dietary needs. Collins Retreat Center strives to always deliver gracious hospitality. Vanessa and her team deliver this hospitality by providing delicious and healthy meals made with love.

Through her work at Collins Retreat Center, Vanessa raises awareness about healthy living and creating a sustainable future for humanity. Due to popular demand, is working on a cookbook to highlight delicious health-oriented globally inspired cuisine and plans to also offer cooking classes at Collins starting in 2020. As a shared vision, Collins plans to further increase the onsite agricultural production in the coming years and create a sustainable farm that supplies the retreat center guests with a farm to table experience!


December 1, 2020 @ 4:00 pm
December 8, 2020 @ 12:00 pm
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Alton L. Collins Retreat Center
32867 OR-211
Eagle Creek, OR 97022 United States
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