Tending to Trauma with Resonance: a 4-session Online Series
What do we do when we realize that the past is spilling into the present, with ourselves or with others? What do we do as empathy buddies and partners and therapeutic holders of space? How do we recognize that the past is intruding? How do we invite connection even in difficult moments in session and how do we notice that things are bigger than we can easily hold? And what do we do then?
Because the brain cannot distinguish between this difficult moment and past moments of aloneness, trauma is intruding in our lives much more than we realize. It intrudes as reactivity, as blindness, as unsoothable upset, as disgust, as horror, as terror, and as resignation and burnout. Join Sarah for 6 hours of exploration and learning about the neuroscience of NVC and trauma.
IS THIS SERIES FOR ME?
This online series is specifically geared for space-holders, those who would like to practice and receive support as NVC (and Resonant Language) practitioners to have solid ground when trauma arises for those you are holding space for.
This series is also useful for relating to our loved ones, our partners and families and friends, as well as trauma that arises in activist movement spaces, or any other place where trauma and distress arise.
4 THURSDAY MEETINGS (recordings available if you can't attend live):
Each meeting includes slides and introduction to the neuroscience concepts, plus time for questions, break-out groups for practice, and time for debriefing. The longer sessions include demonstration of processes and more time for questions, working in small groups, and integration:
- June 20 - Time: 9-10am Pacific time (1 HOUR)
- June 27 – Time: 9-11am Pacific time (2 HOURS)
- July 11 – Time – 9-10am Pacific time (1 HOUR)
- August 8 – Time – 9-11am Pacific time (2 HOURS)
WHAT WILL I LEARN?
June 20 (1 HR) – Time, the Brain and Trauma; the Importance of Accompaniment; Self- and Other-Regulation
PRACTICES: Discern reassurance from resonance, and learn how to make empathy guesses out of reassurance
July 11 (2 HR) – The Time Travel Empathy Process and Demos
PRACTICE: Time travelling to last week
June 27 (1 HR) – Left and Right Hemispheres
PRACTICES: Experimenting with Resonant Language and Discerning Left Shifts
August 8 (2 HR) – Expanding the Window of Welcome and Demos
PRACTICE: Expanding the Window of Welcome
16-Week Online Your Resonant Self: Your Brain & Your Contracts - A Pre-Recorded Series
Do you long to be a more full and free version of yourself? Do you sometimes feel stuck and unsure how to move forward? Have you read and integrated much of the self-warmth from the book “Your Resonant Self,” and do you still have difficulty with fully nourishing your Resonating Self-Witness? Do you wish to be free from your self-sabotaging or self-destructive behaviors which keep you small and inhibit you from thriving?
But how can we shift such deeply ingrained habits and thought patterns?
This new pre-recorded book-study-course offers a fresh look into the content of “Your Resonant Self,” with the new and revolutionary understanding of sacred vows and unconscious contracts, alongside the brain-changing science and insights of the book. In order to belong, survive or honor our families, we make unconscious and silent agreements with ourselves, our caregivers, or the world, which can keep us feeling stuck, small and constrained. Sacred Vow work allows us to touch on, bring healing to, and release ourselves from agreements that are no longer serving us. During this course, we will examine the different contracts that arise from differences in the brains’ hemispheres that are connected to every single concept that the book covers. You will learn how to release yourself from these contracts so you can live a life of your choosing.
Whether you are experienced or brand new to Sarah’s book, this study group is for you!
Registration includes recordings of past classes.
- This is a recorded series, compiled from a previous online Zoom course that moves through YOUR RESONANT SELF from the standpoint of Sacred Vows in 16 sessions, 1 week per chapter + introduction and closing
- This series is more experiential than the original series, allowing participants to feel into the sacred vow/unconscious contract process. Each of the 16 sessions includes Sarah’s presentation of the week’s material (slides are available for download) and at least one unconscious contract demo
- Each session is 55-minutes long
WHAT YOU’LL LEARN:
- Week 1: Introduction and Welcome
This week we’ll set our learning container and go over the materials in the introduction, and put in place our understanding of the neurobiology of sacred vow/unconscious contract work.
- Week 2 – Chapter 1: How We Talk to Ourselves: The Default Mode Network
This chapter explores the way in which we can be forced into maintaining a critical stance toward ourselves by unconscious contracts we have made.
- Week 3 – Chapter 2: Staying in Emotional Balance: Healthy Self-Regulation
In this week’s study group we’ll learn how we can unconsciously block our own self-warmth.
- Week 4 – Chapter 3: Developing Self-Kindness: Introducing the Resonating Self-Witness
Trust is the focus of our exploration this week. If we prevent ourselves from having trust, we will have a difficult time supporting the growth of our Resonating Self-Witness.
- Week 5 – Chapter 4: Taming the Inner Critic: Hearing the Attempt to Contribute
How do our contracts maintain our attitudes of relentless self-criticism? What happens when we release them?
- Week 6 – Chapter 5: Calming Anxiety: Moving Toward Trust
Week 6 takes us into the different kinds of contracts which leave us in a continued state of anxiety, and how to start revoking them.
- Week 7 – Chapter 6: Time Traveling with Resonance: Healing Old Hurts
This week’s group takes us into an understanding of trauma and trauma-based vows, and an initial movement into their release, as well as an integration of the time travel process with vow work
- Week 8 – Chapter 7: Claiming Anger’s Creative and Protective Gifts
What kinds of contracts maintain us in a state of anger or rage, sometimes for years? This week we begin to understand the relationship between vows and the vagus nerve and our nervous system states of fight/flight/panicked aloneness and immobilization.
- Week 9 – Chapter 8. Vanquishing Ancient Fears
In this study group, we’ll look at the contracts connected with terror, fear and fear-based anxiety. How does it feel to let go of the vows that keep us from letting go of vows?
- Week 10 – Chapter 9: Returning from Dissociation
How do unconscious contracts keep us in a state of dissociation? And how can we use contract work to begin to unlock the vows that have kept us from fully participating in life?
- Week 11 – Chapter 10: Attachment: How Brains Respond to Accompaniment
This week’s lesson breaks down chapter 10 and our patterns of attachment and explores the contracts we put in place to make us safe within our attachment styles. The contract work helps us to repattern our nervous systems to feel safe from the inside out.
- Week 12 – Chapter 11: Healing Self-Hate and Disorganized Attachment
In the cramping patterns of self-hate, we often feel we hate ourselves and perhaps lose all hope that our lives matter. How can contract work support us in this area?
- Week 13 – Chapter 12: Gently Healing Depression
Often when struggling with depression, we feel despair and hopeless, as if our lives have no meaning. This week’s lesson shows us how to find richness and create meaning, to feel that self-love is within reach with the help of the dissolution of unconscious contracts.
- Week 14 – Chapter 13: Leaving Behind Addictions and Compulsions: The Contributions of Self-Understanding and Resonance
Interlocking and mutually canceling sacred vows can leave people with so little room to breathe or exist that addictions become the only answer. How can our understanding of unconscious contracts help us in the journey toward freedom from addictions and compulsions?
- Week 15 – Chapter 14: Joy, Community, and Our Outside Voice: Bringing Our Resonating Self-Witness to Others
This week’s lesson explores the importance of empathizing with excitement, delight and joy, and how contracts may prevent us from celebrating or moving into joy. Understanding the gifts of social engagement – what happens in our body when we’re in ventral vagal, vibrating with other humans in trust and safety, is a key piece of hope that can help keep us going on the path of healing trauma.
- Week 16: Closing
16-Week Online Your Resonant Self Book Study Group Recordings
Are you longing for more depth you move through this rich, but challenging material?
Do you have questions and are you seeking answers to help you move through the book and get to healing?
Whether you’ve completed Sarah’s new book, or you’re working your way slowly through, or you’re stuck on certain chapters, this study group is for you!
This is a prerecorded online Zoom course that moves through YOUR RESONANT SELF in 16 sessions, 1 session per chapter + introduction and closing.
This course is complete but you can still catch up by watching the recordings.
- Gain access to this completed prerecorded zoom course, which goes in-depth into the content in a 16-hour series, beginning with the introduction and going chapter by chapter with Sarah teaching the content.
- Largely informational and questions-based, rather than focused on emotional processing, during each of the 16 sessions Sarah presents that week’s material (slides are also available for download), followed by questions from those that participated live.
- Each recording is 55-minutes in length and packed with neurobiological research and relational insights